dirty thoughts

it has come to my notice lately just how sexually charged our culture is by and large. on the surface it would surprise (i wont be using capital letters for this point by the way, no real reason just don't like reaching my pinky all the way over there for shift).

me and the lady were on our way back home from something or other and noticed an adult video store. its a few blocks from our apartment and i have never given much thought to it, however she pointed out, rather surprised, at how large the store was. i had never given any thought to how large the store was till she said that. granted the place is two stores, and roughly the size of a kids r us (not a toy r us, those things are huge) anyhow it got me to thinking, thinking quite a bit for that matter. i pointed out to her that this is not something out of the norm in a large city, or in america for that matter. i quickly pointed out to her that i used to work in a movie rental store and our most rented movies were the porno's. by far.

i remembered back to being 19 and working at the store, and having the same initial shock as the lady had the other night. i remember middle class mothers dropping off the XXX rated films in the drop box, and the college guys roaming around the back porn room with open eyes. i remember the new to america immigrants shuffling in the store and darting straight to the back, amazed with the blonde bombshell american beauties who would go to any lengths to satisfy their well endowed "all american" male, and sometimes, female counterparts. i remember how one thing remained true over and over, whether young or old, black, white, hispanic, greek, russian or what have you, while the new releases and the 5.99 bin appealed to folks of varied interest, the porn room, in the back appealed to pretty much everyone.

that back room had a camera installed so that we could keep an eye on the people in there while they made their selections. even as i write this i can remember vividly watching people spend up to 45 minutes in there just spellbound by the covers of the films alone. what surprised me most then, was not the fact that so many people were drawn to the back room, but the ease at which so many unsuspecting people could pick out a film and bring it to me, a total stranger and be about their business. yes, i could go on at this point about the number of foolish porn titles and various weird tastes of my common man but i'll save that for a conversation over drinks, that within itself is a story best told face to face rather than online. i would sit and watch these people and wonder, wow, is it that serious? apparently it was, and apparently it still is.

i can say with all honesty that i have never been into porn, not necessarily from a moral high ground, but just out of personal interest. to me, if you were starving and had not eaten, or were just hungry for that matter, what sense would it make to watch other people eat, when you could just go get something to eat for yourself? although i am not the porn aficionado myself, i do understand the draw of it all. nudity, even at its most base level has a certain draw and taboo to it, even adam hid in the garden from God upon his discovery of being naked. 

nonetheless, it just lead me to think so much about how much and important sex is in 2008. my generation perhaps more so than any other before us has grown up in such a sexualized culture, some of it perverse and some of it traditional. think about the fact that so many "celebrities" all have sex tapes that get "leaked" often times these leaks are to boost their popularity and get their name turning up in search engines. read: paris hilton, an already established multi millionaire heiress in waiting who had a full fledged romp leak on the internet only to parlay that moment of false em bare ass ment (pretty witty) into an even higher level of stardom, tv shows, albums, movies even references from presidential candidate's. it subtly teaches the praise of sex and what it can get you, and where it can lead. remember the thong song, hell, i'll even admit that before that song came out i had no idea as to what a thong was, now, i would consider myself not only a fan, but a full fledged supporter. 

we once did not allow kissing on screen in movies, when just as recently as sunday me and the lady watched the new hbo series "true blood" and there were graphic scenes of vampires having sex with humans, and this was on tv before 11pm. 

i am not the moral right, nor am i here to lambaste or challenge those with their fetishes, i could go on and on, and i think i might actually post a few more in regards to this, but please give me some comments or feedback, i'll further answer questions or do any research asked upon, i just want to hear your thoughts on some of the following...

what are your thoughts on sex in america? sex in the workplace? sex parties? swinging? gay/lesbianism? threesomes? masturbating? online dating/sex? cyber sex? fisting? porn?sex on screen, and in music? premarital sex?  positions etc, hit me up let me know, and ill address, not as a creep, but in an attempt to learn.