I know your mother

Recently a very close friend of mine lost her husband in a motorcycle accident. She had not been married for 18 months yet, he was a military man and they are located in Hawaii away from all friends and family, and she is three months pregnant with their first child. I had the pleasure of meeting her husband one time and could not help but to think how wonderful a fit they were. He was hilarious, kind, and didn't miss a beat with our conversation for the evening. 

The last few days I have been mostly thinking of her unborn child, and to that child I say the following. Although I may have not known your father well, I do know your mother.

I know your mother, and know that thus you are in more than capable hands. I know your mother, and know that you will be raised with the utmost of respect for not only yourself but others that you come in contact with. I know your mother, and know that you will know the real world and what it will expect of you, and what to expect of it. I know your mother and know you will have respect for women, be you a boy or a girl. I know your mother, and I know you will speak your mind to all those that will listen. I know your mother and know you will be a damn good dancer. I know your mother, and know you will be cared for, respected, well mannered, even headed, daring, and well rounded. I know your mother, and know you are to be a constant reminder of the father you will never meet. However, you should never question the amount of love present from your mother, if I had to pick any of my friends, to put a child's life in the hands of, it would easily be your mother. 

So do not feel upset, or slighted by the fact that your father may not be there. Know that if he was substantial enough to win the hand of your mother, then he was a man of great valor, character and style. A man with a sense of humor, strength and respect. Know that by knowing your mother and what she will expect, and demand of you, then you too in turn will come to know your father, and the type of man he would have been. The type of man who too, was pleased to know your mother. 

I know your mother, and you will be loved, please believe, you will be loved.